The direct correlation between the quality of our relationships and the quality of our lives has been widely documented. Our connection to others is at the core of our lives, our deepest source of joy, and often at the root of our most pressing struggles, fears and challenges. My work in this area has mostly been informed by John Gottman (The Seven Principles) and Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focused Therapy). I collaborate with a couple in order to identify established patterns of being, seeing, responding and reacting to each other, as well as the subtext of what is being communicated within such exchanges. Once recognized, we can look together and seek out ways for each partner to feel heard, nurtured, and understood. These are all necessary ingredients in cultivating a renewed sense of enjoyment and comfort in each other’s company.
